So, as a previous blog mentioned, I got engaged recently. Stoked, elated, happy, thrilled etc. This means that a person that I love and admire greatly, feels much the same about me and has decided to demonstrate that by a) spending money on me to buy me a very perfect ring and b) more important than any purchase, has agreed to enter into a legal agreement that is designed to last until one or both of us kick the bucket! Quite a while, we both hope!!!
It also means that we are sentenced to arrange a wedding. I love weddings. The frock, the frolics, the food, the speeches, the teary Mums, the music and dancing and the love that buzzes round the room (ok, that last bit is a little cheesy!). But I am speaking from the experience of going to other peoples weddings. Weddings that someone else has planned the menu for, someone else has booked the venue, someone else has had the fittings and the hair-do and selected every song and put up with sage advice from everyone........and someone else has written the guest list.........
The list! Oh my GOSH!!! Ok, so finding a dress to flatter my very womanly curves is going to be a challenge, checking out venues is a bit boggling and working out the food arrangements is going to be a tough one, but nothing has stressed me out as much as "who's in, who's out!"
Comments comments comments! I want heaps! Who do I absolutely HAVE to invite!!!? Parents friends with kids you knew when you were young, but have little in common with now, so you went to their daughters wedding, are you now under the obligation to invite her little brother as well?
Second cousins (I don't have any first cousins, so a few of my second cousins have stepped up to the plate over the years), how many of them do I have to invite? One of them is a very close friend, but others, I wouldn't know if I fell over them!!! Only recently did I discover that Andy had been playing basketball with one of my second cousins for months before I put two and two together!
Work mates. You get on great at work, but you have no idea who they are outside work, yet they have spent hours of work time looking at wedding sites with you and you do lunch occasionally and bitch about Kerry* from the mailroom (*not a real person, I have no idea who works in our mailroom, but they do a great job!).
And friends that you bump into, reminisce about the good old days and say "we must catch up for a coffee sometime...." and you never do.
This is why I want to elope!!!
It also means that we are sentenced to arrange a wedding. I love weddings. The frock, the frolics, the food, the speeches, the teary Mums, the music and dancing and the love that buzzes round the room (ok, that last bit is a little cheesy!). But I am speaking from the experience of going to other peoples weddings. Weddings that someone else has planned the menu for, someone else has booked the venue, someone else has had the fittings and the hair-do and selected every song and put up with sage advice from everyone........and someone else has written the guest list.........
The list! Oh my GOSH!!! Ok, so finding a dress to flatter my very womanly curves is going to be a challenge, checking out venues is a bit boggling and working out the food arrangements is going to be a tough one, but nothing has stressed me out as much as "who's in, who's out!"
Comments comments comments! I want heaps! Who do I absolutely HAVE to invite!!!? Parents friends with kids you knew when you were young, but have little in common with now, so you went to their daughters wedding, are you now under the obligation to invite her little brother as well?
Second cousins (I don't have any first cousins, so a few of my second cousins have stepped up to the plate over the years), how many of them do I have to invite? One of them is a very close friend, but others, I wouldn't know if I fell over them!!! Only recently did I discover that Andy had been playing basketball with one of my second cousins for months before I put two and two together!
Work mates. You get on great at work, but you have no idea who they are outside work, yet they have spent hours of work time looking at wedding sites with you and you do lunch occasionally and bitch about Kerry* from the mailroom (*not a real person, I have no idea who works in our mailroom, but they do a great job!).
And friends that you bump into, reminisce about the good old days and say "we must catch up for a coffee sometime...." and you never do.
This is why I want to elope!!!
3 comments:
Invite the people you want there to celebrate your special day. Just because you have been to someones wedding does not mean that you have to invite them to yours. You certainly don't need to invite relatives that you have nothing or not much to do with. Invite the friend who is a cousin but don't worry about the others. I think that it is important that you invite your friends and close family but only the people you want there. Hope that helps.
Treat it like you would a birthday party, who do you really want to celebrate and share the moment with? Invite only people who are as excited about this time in your life as you are and those who make you feel really good about yourself!
I was to talking to a guest at a wedding recently who told me that he didn't know either the bride or the groom just that one of them, and he wasn't sure which, was somehow related to his wife. can you imagine?
Just spam your whole Facebook friends list with an event invite and invite the ones who RSVP.
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